Couples of Naturism – Rosario and Gerardo

We are hoping this year to expand this series of asking naturist couples some pretty intimate questions. Because this is the heart of what makes naturism important to us. Those who live it.

These aren’t your typical surface level Q&A. These are real questions for real naturist couples designed to go beyond “How did you find naturism?” or “What’s your favorite nude beach?”

They explore the heart of the relationship:

• How naturism changes the way you see each other.
• What it’s like to be emotionally and physically vulnerable together.
• How you navigate awkward moments, deep body insecurities, aging, flirtation, connection, and joy… all without clothes.

Some are serious, some may be funny, and some might surprise you with how honest they can be. They’re not about being perfect naturists or Instagram naturists. They’re for those of us living this lifestyle in real life, with love, flaws, routines, and a bit of mischief.

We ask these questions not just to learn about other couples of naturism, but to help new people understand what naturism can really feel like when it’s shared with someone you love!

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Couples of Naturism

Who are you, how long have you been together, and what makes your relationship uniquely you, clothed or not? And when did each of you discover naturism?

We are Rosario and Gerardo, long-time Mexican nudists; Rosario since 2007 and Gerardo since 1996. We have been together since November 2013, a couple of years after Gerardo’s first wife passed away. We are together because, having been nudists for so long, neither of us would entertain being in a relationship with a non-nudist, and because we love each other and complement each other well. So much so that we decided to marry in December, 2016.

1. What part of naturism was surprisingly hard for each of you, not physically, but emotionally?

Gerardo: I first went nude in public on Cupecoy Beach, Sint Maarten, Netherlands Antilles, in June of 1996, while vacationing with my first wife (now deceased) and our sons, who were 20 and 18 at the time. Pulling down my shorts in front of the family wasn’t an issue, since we weren’t particularly skittish about nudity, even if we weren’t nudists.

However, since the beach was billed as being clothing optional in the reservation confirmation I got from RCI for our hotel, and there were quite a few people at the beach, some nude and some clothed, I decided I wanted to try, since I was curious about nudism, having followed the rec.nude newsgroup on Usenet for quite some time.

After my first skinny dip in the warm waters of the Caribbean, I came to the conclusion that I didn’t want to wear a swimsuit any longer if I could help it. Feeling the water all around me and then being dried by the Sun, in addition to not having to worry about getting the car seat wet when it was time to drive back to the hotel, definitely got me sold on nudism.

Rosi: A nudist friend invited me to attend clothing-optional temazcal (the prehispanic version of the Finnish sauna) in late 2007. I went, but I resisted taking off my clothes because I was afraid someone would do something to me, especially since there were more men than women, and also because I thought people wouldn’t like looking at my overweight body with all its stretch marks. My friend, however, gave me the confidence to disrobe and after doing that I found feeling very comfortable. No one was staring at me, and whenever anyone would address me they would look at my face, not my body.

At the time I already had two daughters aged 14 and 11, and they would ask me why I came back so happy and relaxed from the temazcal. I told them about nudism, and they started going with me.

It was clear nudism isn’t for everyone, because my older daughter would go nude, while the younger one never took off the bikini she wore to the temazcales.

2. Who had the “let’s try being naked with strangers” idea first, and how did that pitch go with the other?

Since we were already nudists, there was nothing to pitch! We knew about each other being nudists since May 2009, which is when Gerardo discovered there were Mexican nudists discussing nudism and organizing nudist gatherings on various Yahoo groups. Rosario was a moderator of one of those groups, Amor-Nud. We had seen pictures of each other online but didn’t actually meet in person until January of 2013, when we happened to travel to Zipolite, Oaxaca, on an excursion that yet another group, VidaNud, organized every year around the first long weekend of the year — the one ending on the first Monday of February, which is a holiday in Mexico.

VidaNud would rent a bus that made two stops, the first at a mall North of Mexico City proper, and the second at a spot South of downtown Mexico City not far from the start of the highway going South toward the Pacific Coast. Rosario and two of her three daughters boarded the bus at the first stop and rode in the last row, while Gerardo boarded at the second stop and was assigned a seat near the middle of the bus by the organizers, so we didn’t meet in person until we got off the bus in Zipolite!

3. Have you ever had a naturist experience as a couple that just didn’t feel right? What did each of you learn from it?

We once went to a nudist gathering that was pretty much all men, most of them gay. Rosi was the only woman, she wasn’t sure she would be very comfortable having no other women around. Gerardo suggested staying at least a little while, and eventually Rosi overcame her misgivings and found herself very much at ease.

4. When did naturism feel like more than just being naked for each of you, like something deeply personal or transformative? Tell us about that shift.

Rosi: For me, it was when I discovered I could be nude around other nude people without anyone giving me any lewd looks.

Gerardo: For me, it was that first time skinny dipping in the Caribbean.

5. What advice would each of you give a couple curious about naturism but worried about how it might affect their relationship? Give us the advice you wish someone gave you.

Both of us would tell them that they should give it a try, to see whether the like it, and use Gerardo’s experience with his first wife, Liian, as an example. Up to 2009, Gerardo and Lilian were strictly anonymous beach nudists and Lilian would say she wasn’t a nudist even if she did disrobe at nudist beaches. When the opportunity to take part in their first social nudism gathering came up in August 2009, one which involved staying over the weekend at a rented house outside Mexico City from a Friday afternoon through the following Sunday, Gerardo suggested at least staying overnight from Friday to Saturday and, if either one didn’t like it, they’d go back home Saturday morning.

As it turned out, they stayed until Sunday and, on the drive back, Lilian said to Gerardo… “Now I am a nudist”.

6. Do you feel more connected during your naturist moments together than when you’re clothed and going about normal life? Why do you think that is?

Neither of us would say that being nude together makes us feel more connected. We love each other just the same, clothed or not.

7. How do you keep the “us” strong when naturism becomes social? Do you stick together, wander off and each do their own thing and debrief later?

We do both, depending on the gathering. Sometimes we stick together and socialize with a few other people. Other times each one socializes with different individuals or groups, and debrief later if there’s anything worth debriefing about.

8. What part of each of your naturist identities do you wish more people understood about you… and why?

Rosi and Gerardo both agree that they wish more people would believe them when they tell them how much happier and comfortable they both feel when not wearing clothes.

9. Have you ever had an experience that challenged your naturist values? How did you stay true to your philosophy?

Neither of us can say that we’ve been subject to any such experience. Some people, especially a few family members on either side, may have been critical or derisive about our love of nudism, but it’s their loss. We try our best not to guide our participation in nudist activities by what other people may think or say.

10. Do you think naturism has changed how you relate to other people? Are your friendships built more with others who share a naturist life or do you keep naturism separate from your close friendships?

At this point we think we may have built more close friendships with fellow nudists than with non-nudists, although that should not be interpreted to mean that non-nudist friends have stopped talking to us because our love of nudism.

Closing

Thank you, Rosario and Gerardo, for trusting us… and all of us… with your story.

Not just the highlights, not just the easy parts, but the real ones. The hesitations, the adjustments, the quiet realizations, the moments where nudism stopped being something you did and became something you were. What you’ve shared here isn’t a guidebook or a manifesto. It’s something much rarer. A lived example of what a long, honest, affectionate relationship can look like when it’s built in openness, respect, and comfort with yourselves and each other.

And that’s exactly why we created this series. Not to collect “success stories.” Not to showcase perfect naturist couples. But to make visible what usually stays invisible: the emotional texture of sharing this life with someone you love.

If you’re reading this as someone curious about naturism, we hope this helped you feel what it can be like. Not as a fantasy, not as a stereotype, but as a relationship practice rooted in normal life, real people, and real love.

And if you’re already living this life as a couple, we hope you saw a little of yourselves in this too.

If you enjoyed meeting Rosario and Gerardo, we invite you to meet another naturist couple next… Nick and Hannah… and experience how differently (and beautifully) this same philosophy can be lived.

You can also follow them on Bluesky.

And if you and your partner have your own story… whether it’s just beginning, still uncertain, deeply settled, or somewhere in between… we’d love to hear it. You don’t need to be famous, flawless, or fully figured out. You just need to be real.

Because this series isn’t about how naturism should look.

It’s about how it actually feels when it’s shared.

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