Couples of Naturism – Scott n Lee

We are asking naturist couples some pretty intimate questions. No one blushed. (Okay, maybe one or two.)

These aren’t your typical surface level Q&A. These are real questions for real naturist couples designed to go beyond “How did you find naturism?” or “What’s your favorite nude beach?”

They explore the heart of the relationship:

• How naturism changes the way you see each other.
• What it’s like to be emotionally and physically vulnerable together.
• How you navigate awkward moments, deep body insecurities, aging, flirtation, connection, and joy… all without clothes.

Some are serious, some may be funny, and some might surprise you with how honest they can be. They’re not about being perfect naturists or Instagram naturists. They’re for those of us living this lifestyle in real life, with love, flaws, routines, and a bit of mischief.

We ask these questions not just to learn about other couples of naturism, but to help new people understand what naturism can really feel like when it’s shared with someone you love!

Introduction

From the moment we met Scott and Lee a couple of years ago through our MEWE couples group we used to have, we knew they were genuine, adorable people. They had such an amazing sense of humor and were unbelievably fun. They participated in all of our online photo challenges and scavenger hunts with a sense of nude challenge and adventure. So let’s get to know them a bit more!

First things first: tell us about you as a couple. Who are you, how long have you been together, and what makes your relationship uniquely you, clothed or not?

Lee and I have been married for 8 years, but have been together for 15 years. Lee is a retired High School English teacher, and I am a former U.S. Navy Diver turned golf professional and recently retired. We live in South Carolina and have known each other since 1998.

We both love golf, and that’s how we met. We got into naturism/nudism as a couple late in life, and I think that worked to our advantage. Neither of us has children or nearby relatives to pass judgment. Not that it mattered to us, really, but it made our move to naturism potentially less stressful at the time.

I think what makes our relationship unique is that we are both Type A problem solvers, and as a close friend once remarked, ‘I don’t see how you can make it because you’ll be arguing over who gets to change the oil.’

That’s not too far off, so we’ve learned to share the responsibilities.

What part of naturism was surprisingly hard for you, not physically, but emotionally?

Scott: Nothing stands out. If there was anything that gave us pause, it was the judgment thing. I was already comfortable living my life indoors without clothing. When Lee and I finally got together, I was mildly concerned about how she would feel towards me when my nudity was in her face, so to speak. Lee had never spent a lot of time in the past without clothes at home, and I think she was concerned at first about displaying all her self-assigned flaws 24-7.

LEE: I struggled at first with Scott’s nudity around the house. It was something that I had never experienced before, and I was conflicted about how I felt. It didn’t take long for me to realize that his desire to be clothes-free was genuine and deep-seated. Obviously, I eventually came around.

Who had the “let’s try being naked with strangers” idea first, and how did that pitch go?

Lee was the one who first got us naked outdoors. We were getting ready to travel to Florida for vacation, and she suggested that while we were there, we try a Clothing-Optional Geocache. I was like, “Wait, what? I’m in!”

We arrived at the site, found the geocache, and then sat down on a blanket for a picnic snack. After a few minutes, I said something to the effect, “Wouldn’t it be cool if another couple showed up?” Lee agreed. Not long after, I suggested that we visit Blind Creek Beach on Hutchinson Island. The rest, as they say, is history.

Have you ever had a naturist experience as a couple that just didn’t feel right? What did you learn from it?

We have been very lucky. That being said, we are ultra-careful and diligent about where we go and who we associate with. That doesn’t mean we haven’t had our moments, and it’s those few moments that are the reason why we are so cautious.

There have been a couple of awkward/uncomfortable situations when we have been contacted online by a seemingly legit “True Nudist” couple, only to later find out that they were anything but. Now, we find that they are relatively easy to spot. Evasive answers to questions and hesitancy to comply with simple identification practices are a huge red flag.

When did naturism feel like more than just being naked, like something deeply personal or transformative for each of you? Tell us about that shift.

It happened within 10 minutes of settling in at our first clothing-optional beach visit. I think that it hit us both at about the same time. The novelty and apprehension of public nudity disappeared almost immediately, and a sense of calm and joy took over. Still feel exactly the same.

What advice would you give a couple curious about naturism but worried about how it might affect their relationship? Give us the advice you wish someone gave you.

We have both heard about couples where one of the partners is totally against the idea of naturism. We’re not sure how that could possibly work to everyone’s satisfaction in the long term, but hey, that’s just our opinion.

If both are equally curious about naturism, then we would suggest starting with some online research in the form of articles and blogs via the various nudism and naturism support organizations such as AANR, TNS, FCN, etc. Learn all about the benefits of naturism from the experts. (Not to sound cheesy or anything, but we would point them directly to your website.) Excellent content with excellent writing. Quite the combination! (Thank-you! 😊😊)

Also, there’s nothing wrong with baby steps, either. Start around the home. Maybe don’t get dressed immediately after showering. Have a drink or even a meal (suggest avoiding any pan-fried meals) without your clothes and see how it feels. Lee and I stumbled along, not really sure where we should start as a couple. Luckily, again, we started late in life, so we were willing try almost anything. 😉

Do you feel more connected during your naturist moments together than when you’re clothed and going about normal life? Why do you think that is?

We do at times. When we’re at the beach or sitting around a pool, we tend to stay by ourselves, which lends itself to a more focused back-and-forth. Of course, we’re not overly social even when we are wearing clothes, but I think that we are more aware of our surroundings and other people when in the textile world. When we’re around other nudists and naturists, we are never concerned with what others are doing or thinking. I guess it’s our “Happy Place”.

If you could describe how naturism has shaped your relationship, what would it look like?

Without a doubt, we are far less judgmental of others than before we started our naturism journey. Also, we have shed, arguably, one of the biggest roadblocks in many people’s lives, and that’s caring what other people think. Full disclosure: There is a lot to be said for being older and retired.

What has naturism taught you about aging, confidence, or self-image as a couple?

As far as aging is concerned, not that much. Maybe that’s it never to late to start embracing naturism? Mother Nature is going to win in the end. All we can do is try to take care of ourselves and fight the good fight. We can tie confidence and self-image together.

As Lee and I have grown older, we continue to feel better about ourselves, that is, how we look and how we handle life’s challenges. Naturism has accelerated the feeling of confidence and positive self-image. Walking around naked with complete strangers would not have been on the to-do list 20 years ago. Now, we can’t wait until our next chance. It is really amazing how comfortable we have become in our own skin.

How has naturism changed the way you see your partner’s body? And your own?

Lee: Seeing other males at the beach or a resort has given me an appreciation of how good Scott looks. It’s not a judgment of the others – just a comparison. Even though he is retired (sort of), he still works hard and does things to keep himself in good shape and good health. It’s not an obsession, but I know that he could never let himself go.

Having seen hundreds of other women of all shapes, ages, and sizes over the years, I feel very good in my skin.

Scott: I may be, nah, I am very biased here. Lee looks amazing, and not just for her age. At the nude beach or the pool, Lee walks with a quiet and casual confidence. There’s nothing arrogant, fake, or put-on about it. My head turns just as quickly as everyone else’s. Every single time I see her without her clothes, I have to smile. The more I see her, the more I say “Ooh Boy”!

Not that it’s a contest. Well, it might have been at some point in the past, but I feel pretty good about how I look. I don’t think that I could have said that 20 years ago, even though I was lighter and in better condition. Naturism has allowed me to shed the concern about a few extra pounds or a new wrinkle or two.

Last question. What have you learned about yourself by watching your partner embrace naturism? Sometimes we learn by witnessing, not doing.

Lee: I learned that, before embracing naturism, I was much more judgmental than I care to admit – even at home. At first, seeing Scott naked around the house gave me pause. I wasn’t sure how I felt as it seemed a little strange. However, over time, I saw how it made him feel, and so I got used to the idea and decided to join the party.

Scott: I’ve learned that I have more empathy for others than I had ever thought. Lee would do anything for me, and that’s great, but I wanted her to get everything out of naturism that I had. It was very important to me that she embraced naturism on her own, without me pushing, than to just go along to get along. It would never have felt right if the latter were the case. Watching Lee go from “Scott, WTF, have you given away all your clothes?” to “I’ve booked us for Naked Pickleball lessons” has been quite the exhilarating journey.

Closing

Thank you Scott and Lee for sharing your honesty and just a bit of your life together in naturism.

If you enjoyed this article, check our next naturist couple – Nick and Hannah!

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